It’s 3:00 and the house is bathed in silence. It’s naptime and I actually have two kids napping. Might not sound too impressive. In fact, if you had told me I was going to blog about naptime a few weeks ago, I would have laughed and told you there would be nothing to say in a blog about naptime. Naptime is no big deal…it’s just a part of our afternoon routine. Oh, but now I know what the big deal is.
Last week we visited my parents for a week. Day 1 at Grandma and Grandpa’s the kids did not nap. I brushed it off…it was exciting to be in a new place. No big deal. I put them to bed early. Then Day 2 came and went without a nap. Then Day 3 and 4 and 5 and 6…all came and went without naps. Joseph and William were fine. They played hard each day and then went to bed early each night. But I suffered. I never realized how much I rely on their nap for a mental break. By Napless Day 3, I was miserable. It’s not that I don’t want to play with my kids. It’s not that I have so many pressing things to do that I rely on that time. It’s greater than that. It’s that I’m a mommy 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and I need some time at some point to recharge. I didn’t realize until last week that naptime is my recharging time. I’m not good to anyone without a chance to recharge. Naptime is my time. Daxson’s working, the kids are sleeping, the house is mine. Sometimes I blog, sometimes I clean, sometimes I read, sometimes I even nap right alongside my children. But it’s not important what I do during that time, it’s important that I have that time.
I know that at some point my kids will outgrow their naps. I know that when that happens, I will listen to the wise advice handed over to me by many seasoned mommies and we will have a quiet hour every afternoon so everyone can recharge. But I also know that until that day comes I will cherish naptime. I will use it for my own selfish mommy time, so that I can spend the rest of the day giving 100 percent of myself to my children.
Just a little advice from a mommy who has now experienced a week without naps…Whatever it takes, be it an afternoon nap, a Saturday out shopping, a date night with your husband…a recharged mommy is definitely worth it…so do it…fully recharge yourself and please, oh, please…don’t feel guilty.
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I hear ya. The first thing my mother-in-law told me about making family decisions with a baby is that if mommy is no good then everybody loses. She knows I like to be “super woman” or “super mommy” and end up running myself ragged, so sometimes we all need to realize that taking a break is just fine. It’s more than fine, it’s necessary and makes us better at doing what we do…mothering our wonderful children 🙂
I agree…never feel guilty but I will go on to say…never feel guilty about any of the mommy thoughts and feelings. They are normal. Love, Mom