You know that place that the visualization gurus tell you to find. Your happy place. A place where you feel completely relaxed. A place where you can close your eyes and imagine yourself there. A place where your hunched up shoulders relax, the tension just melts away and for one brief moment, all is right in the world.
Sometimes those gurus forget to tell you that it’s got to be a place that’s written on your heart…it’s got to be carved into your DNA so you can feel it, smell it, truly be in it.
I have a place like that. A place I slip away to when the kids are bouncing off the walls, the checkbook is missing and the bills are waiting to be paid. A place where I feel totally accepted and happy and stress free. A place that I can smell and see and feel when I close my eyes.
It is a place carved into my heart.
It’s a retreat of my mind.
But this retreat wasn’t imagined into being. It was once a real retreat. A retreat where I walked barefoot and relished the native plants growing wild around me.
A retreat where the sun streamed in the windows and there was no pressure to do or to be, no expectation to meet.
A retreat where my kids’ eyes shone a little brighter with the immersion into a captivating summer world complete with jars of fireflies, bowls of freshly picked ripe black raspberries and adventures exploring a winding creek.
The details were attentive and deliberate. We felt welcomed in as if the home had been waiting just for us to arrive. The fluffed pillows, the soaps scented with essential oils, the throw over the back of the couch for the evenings when the sun had set and a chill settled over my feet.
The books on local flora and fauna just waiting to be looked through, the telescope aimed directly between the break in the trees so we could catch glimpses of stars far away. It was all so incredibly thought-out, as if we were long-awaited guests not simply renters.
But it wasn’t just the property. We were smack dab in the middle of a luscious valley that sparkled with waterfalls and blossomed with plants brought to the area many years ago by the Shawnee Indians.
It was an adventure with medicinal flowers and edible plants and zip-lining through the tall trees. It was quaint restaurants, long bike rides and the library of a nearby university lined with oft-coveted pre-1963 books.
It was lovely. Absolutely lovely.
There is not a bad memory from that week. Not a fight or an angry word. Not a frustrated sigh or an impatient glance. It was as if time stood still and we all remembered that kindness matters. It was a moment to snuggle and whisper late into the summer evenings. It was a moment to read with abandon, a moment to write with heart. A moment to breathe.
And sometimes that’s what we need. A moment to breathe. A moment to re-live the happy moments. A moment to escape our reality and find ourselves immersed in a peaceful memory.
There is value to visualization. Value to remembering happy moments. Value to imagining ourselves somewhere happy. It gives us a moment to recenter ourselves.
It allows us to remember what that peace feels like and to find it again in this intentional moment.