I don’t actually know what I’m doing.
Not in mothering. Not in marriage. Not in relationships, in general.
Not in educating. Not in domestic responsibilities. Not in business.
Certainly not in humaning.
I am not an expert. In anything. I hold multiple degrees. I am well trained in various areas from accounting to herbalism. I have taught myself how to cook and clean and do laundry. I have learned to make medicines and file taxes and follow an educational philosophy that respects children as born persons. I have studied and read and learned. I have traveled and I have loved and I have birthed babies. Yet I am not an expert at anything.
Sometimes I feel inadequate. Like I’m a perpetual student over here, never quite achieving competency. Other times, I’m just resigned to the idea that I am not an expert. I think of myself more as a jack-of-all trades.
Other days I try to convince myself that surely I must be an expert at something. I know so much about herbs and healing and alternative health care. Until I am humbly reminded that for all I know, there’s still so much I don’t know. I tell myself I’m an expert at educating my children. Until I see a hole in their learning or hear a criticism that makes me rethink our methods.
Most days I go to bed reminded that I’m really not an expert at anything.
Except being broken.
I’m good at that. Really good. Expert level good.
Being broken doesn’t require a degree. Or years of study. It doesn’t require a paycheck or a certain household income. It doesn’t matter my skin color or my weight or my religion. All it requires is a quick look in the mirror and the humility to admit that I’m a mess.
And I promise. I’m a mess.
Being an expert at being broken might not be a bad thing. It certainly makes me more compassionate. Because I know how you’re feeling. My road might look different than yours, but it’s all still a rubbled mess. And I get how that mess distracts us and deters us and sometimes defines us.
Being broken leaves lots of room for growth and fixing. And that might just be the point of this long journey we call life…a chance to change and be the better person, the kinder person, the person I’d want in my life.
The best thing about being broken might just be that it keeps me humble. It helps me journey alongside those in my life (even my kids…no, especially, my kids). ‘Cause I don’t really know what I’m doing either. And sometimes having somebody that’s there in the trenches with you is way better than having someone preach from outside the arena.
So there it is. I’m a fraud at most everything I do. Except being broken. And I’m okay with that.
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Well dear, then we are competing to see who is the winner because no matter how old, how wise, how anything we get we are still a mess. But like you I am proud to be a mess. I don’t have to worry about being some poster person or everybody thinking that I know it all. That to me would be a great chore. I would have to never be wrong even if in one field only. My goodness. I am so glad that you are who are you and I am who I am. I still don’t even know what I want to be in life and some days am not sure who i am or where I am going. The one thing that I do know for sure is that God gives me a new day to stat all over and I am so glad of that. Also that He is very forgiving and always there for us all. All we need to do is reach out ore hand for his. When we don’t have a hand near by His is there. Love,
I should have signed it from one fraud to another. 🙂
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Way to put yourself out there…
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